He/She doesn’t understand me anymore!

Let’s face it – Relationships are difficult and hardly ever perfect!

It all begins when you’re wearing those rose tinted glasses of love and life seems eternally blissful with the ‘right’ person next to you, holding your hand and guiding you through the potholed streets of love and life. But wait, how long does that last? More importantly, how often can you trust your judgment when you’re in love?

We don’t mean to give you a scare but the divorce rates are on a rise. As counsellors, we come across a lot of couples who are unable to let go of their past or who have failed to be upfront with the spouse. With these issues rooted in their system, the difficulty in letting go and accepting increases drastically.

After all this bad news, is there a way out? The answer is Yes. And it’s called Pre-Marital Counselling.

Here are a few reasons why you should SERIOUSLY consider pre-marital counselling-

  1. Better insight on your better half

Beyond all that macho pretense may lie a sensitive guy.

It looks like she has it all together but maybe she is freaking out on the inside.

You might just discover a side of your partner that you haven’t seen before. This will strengthen your relationship and help you understand your partner better.

2. Facing Issues

A couple that seems perfect could actually have a lot of issues which they haven’t discussed with each other. Also, the first step to recovery is admitting that something is wrong. Staying in denial about the problems in your relationship is not a healthy way to deal with your relationship.

3. Making expectations clear

When couples are getting ready to tie the knot, they often don’t discuss certain areas which seem trivial at the beginning. The attitude of “We’ll cross that bridge when we get there” may not be the best way to go about it.

Issues such as children and religion, for example, need to discussed upon beforehand.

4. Paves way for Real Communication

Who doesn’t love “Pillow Talk”? But they can only get you so far.

Now that you know your partner better, you can establish a real connection with them. There’s a sense of maturity and understanding in your relationship which will lead to happy marriage.

5. Let’s talk finances

One of the most important discussions that is usually ignored – Finance. Does your partner have an ongoing debt? How are you going to chart your finances post marriage? Are you expected to sign a nuptial?

This information is vital to a couple before they get hitched to avoid any miscommunication in the later stages of their marriage.


You don’t need to be in a rut to visit a counsellor. A counsellor’s job is not to “fix” your life but to provide you with the techniques to do so yourself.


To know more about pre-marital counselling,

Email –  support@ithrive.in

Call – +91 98202 57739 / +91 982057 6682


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